Posts by Seeking Knowledge

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Intensely lonely

by Cabin in the woods in

jw
friends

normally i am fine but a glass and a half of wine and my heart is breaking.

the irony of it is is that i was as lonely as this in the congregation.. i feel overwhelmed with life and never seem to get anywhere or get anything done.

god, i sound pitiful.

Seeking Knowledge

Hi Mary:

Welcome to the board....Alaska you say?? I'm here for you! You've come to the right place, great people & lots of support. I hope you stick around!

SK

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My eighteen yr. old son wants to get his lip pierced !!!!

by troubled mind in

aghhhhhhhhhh, he thinks it's cool i think it's grosss!

any suggestions that you think may help to persuade him from going through with it ?

Yikes....my daughter who's 16 just had HER bellybutton pierced compliments of her grandma (who was also responsible for my brothers pierced ears when they were younger...hey mine too) No tattoo's yet....

I'd say short of offering to do it for him with a rusty nail & a hammer, let him go for it. He's 18 and I agree with all the other posters, he wants to do his "own thing". It's harmless compared to what they could really be doing!

SK

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ORANGEFATCAT HAS A BRAIN TUMOR

by orangefatcat in

jw
friends

yes, it is so, that i have a brain tumor and i will be going to the hospital in about two hours.

i will ask my son richard to keep all of you posted.

i have all of you in my heart.

Seeking Knowledge

I'm late as usual....

(((OFC))) My thoughts are with you during this time.

SK

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UBMs - why do we love JWs??

by Super_Becka in

i think there's been a thread on this before, but i figured i'd ask again.. for all of the ubms out there, why is it that we love witnesses??

what is it about them that we find so attractive??

why are we putting ourselves through this mess when we know full-well that there are lots of non-jws out there who would be better for us??.

Seeking Knowledge

((CYP))

I meant to give you that earlier!! I feel for you...

SK

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Film Scenes that got burnt onto your memory

by greendawn in

jw
friends

what were some film scenes that pleased or horrified you so much that they stayed vivid in your memory for a long time?

the one i always recall is the scene where anthony hopkins (playing as hannibal lector) lobotomised ray liotta (paul krendler) cutting off pieces of his brain and giving them to him to eat.

he also took some of liotta's cooked brain in a plane and gave them to an unsuspecting passenger boy sitting next to him to eat.

Seeking Knowledge

I'd have to say the last movie that affected me was Braveheart when they were doing the execution. I forgot to breathe the whole time.

Sitting next to my very scottish mother who kept poking me in the ribs telling me "there's your heritage" during all the other scenes was pretty helpful as well.

SK

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UBMs - why do we love JWs??

by Super_Becka in

i think there's been a thread on this before, but i figured i'd ask again.. for all of the ubms out there, why is it that we love witnesses??

what is it about them that we find so attractive??

why are we putting ourselves through this mess when we know full-well that there are lots of non-jws out there who would be better for us??.

Seeking Knowledge

One of my new ones is imagining the conversation I will have someday where I have to apologize to my children for the incredibly awful choice I made in picking their mother.

Oh yea...

SK

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UBMs - why do we love JWs??

by Super_Becka in

i think there's been a thread on this before, but i figured i'd ask again.. for all of the ubms out there, why is it that we love witnesses??

what is it about them that we find so attractive??

why are we putting ourselves through this mess when we know full-well that there are lots of non-jws out there who would be better for us??.

Seeking Knowledge

I am sure this guy has some great qualities. But he also would let your kids die if they needed blood. You can go easy on yourself by reminding yourself that it is very unlikely to happen. But that is irrelevant. The fact is that is the choice he would make, and you can't deny all that implies about him. He would be a threat to your children Becka. Anything else he is, is irrelevant.

Me again. I agree 100% with CYP. Sure my ex and I had our problems, mostly with communication. I wish I would have done things different in regards to finding out for myself, first hand, why his parents didn't want anything to do with me instead of taking his word for it. Looking more into what it meant to be a JW instead of waiting until it became a threat to my son. Hindsight is 20/20 and I can't get that back. Would things have been different?? Maybe...that would be my "what if".

My son needed tubes in his ears. Hardly an invasive procedure but up until the day of, my ex did nothing as respects making appointments, dealing with ear infections, filling out paperwork, insurance, etc. NOTHING. The day of the surgery they handed me a clipboard with add'l paperwork to fill out and it came to the blood question. Standard question. He snatched the clipboard out of my hands & filled in "NO" to the question. Without so much as a "how do you feel about this?" to me. That is the reality....here was his 2 year old son, about to undergo surgery and no matter what, he wasn't getting blood...regardless of what his mother thought. Granted, the blood issue is really non-existant when getting tubes in your ears but what if it were something more? This man was making a decision regarding his child without taking into consideration the feelings of ME his mother or even the life of his own child. Jerk.

Fast forward 3 years...custody in place, rules in place....I have final say in all medical (and blood) issues, but do you think that will stop him?Of course not. God forbid something should happen to my son while he's in his father's care and would require blood. I'd get the phone call way too late. THIS is what I think about every day I watch my baby leave with his father. It's amazing how fast things change.

I've said it before, good for you for doing your research now. Better now than later!

SK

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UBMs - why do we love JWs??

by Super_Becka in

i think there's been a thread on this before, but i figured i'd ask again.. for all of the ubms out there, why is it that we love witnesses??

what is it about them that we find so attractive??

why are we putting ourselves through this mess when we know full-well that there are lots of non-jws out there who would be better for us??.

Seeking Knowledge

I fell in love with my JW before I had an inkling as to what being a JW meant. It had nothing to do with his beliefs. He was a great person, knew how to make me feel like I was the only one in the world worth having, could sell ice cubes to the eskimo's he could. I didn't love him because he was a witness, again that had nothing to do with my feelings for him. I loved him because of who he was at the time. I wouldn't have traded him in for anything.

Until now....now my feelings towards him have changed. All the things I could have learned & learned too late, and we have a son together. So now I'm learning not only from research, but from my son as well. The good side?? My son has what his father never had, and that is another opinion on life, someone to encourage him to question what he learns instead of accepting it as gospel. My ex is seeing a whole new side of me, one that isn't falling for his charm anymore and one that does stand up to him & his "charm". Who does he call when wifey kicked him to the curb and life has him down? That's right!

Of course my ex did rebel "against the system" later in life otherwise this would all be moot. He did go against his beliefs, got away from it and lived a life that he enjoyed. Until I got pregnant, then it all came down...kinda like a pink elephant.

I don't think you can help who you fall in love with, religion or not, that's the kind of person you attract and the kind of person you want to be with. Simple as pie.....not.

SK

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